Adding a new member to our family life can bring a massive change not only to our routine and lifestyle, but also to our thoughts and emotions. Our life tends to be governed by a little one we have to take care and nurture. The addition of a new member also changes the relationship we have with our partner.
Here is a roundup of some ways how a relationship changes after a baby:
1. Lack of physical intimacy
After the addition of a new member, most couples may suffer from a lack of physical intimacy with each other. It’s often because parents are left exhausted after caring for the little one and don’t find the energy to engage in other physical activities. This may lead to a decrease in the level of emotional understanding between the couple and may give rise to conflicts.
Here’s what you can do about it: One way to deal with it is to consciously make time to spend with your partner alone. You may want to seek help from your relatives and friends. Don’t forget that physical intimacy is an important part of a healthy relationship.
2. Dividing chores
A new baby needs constant care and it can become tiresome for only one parent to attend. Therefore, you need to understand that babies aren’t only one parent’s responsibility; they are the responsibility of both partners.
Here’s what you can do about it: As partners, you can divide up the household work as well as the baby’s chores in half and help out each other to work as a team. When you make your partner feel supported and understood, incorporating this habit will also help you deal with other major changes that may come your way in the future.
3. More care for the mother
New mothers often go through post-pregnancy depression because of the sudden change in physical and emotional aspects and caring for the child.
Here’s what you can do about it: Partners can help by being more attentive to the mothers. If you’re a man reading this, know that you can show TLC by offering food and care of the mother’s choice and whenever possible giving them a day off from all the chores. In case you feel your relationship is strained too much or there is no improvement in your partner’s mental health, you can seek advice from a professional and talk about the new lifestyle changes.
4. Lack of me-time
A child will certainly use up a major part of your day and with the time you’re left, you’d rather sleep than do anything else. Not only you don’t get to spend time with your partner but you rarely spend time with yourself. This can lead to massive fatigue and you’ll feel burnt out and seek solace.
Here’s what you can do about it: Instead of feeling frustrated or having an anxiety attack, you can ask openly for some time away from your partner. You can indulge in hobbies, exercise or simply, go out on meditative walks.
I’m a mother of a teenager and I’m learning every day from my mistakes. Being a parent is challenging. There are constant changes and you will make mistakes. It’s a process of growing and learning together for the next part of your life. Throughout the journey, you’ve to be true to yourself and remember to be a constant student of life.